LGBTQ Book Reviews

Marriage of a Thousand Lies

Marriage of a Thousand Lies is an absolutely stunning book that I picked up completely by chance. It gives readers a lot to unpack in a seriously small package. The book explores topics about family, love, marriage, culture, tradition, societal expectations, and queer/gender issues.

Lucky is a first generation American whose parents hail from Sri Lanka. She is also a lesbian that is married to a gay man in order to keep up appearances for both of their families. Her stable arrangement with her husband is turned on it’s head when she reconnects with Nisha, her childhood best friend and first love.

“I’m not part of this world she’s afraid of, this community she clings to, these uncles and aunties who compare each other’s kids like pieces of fine jewelry. These people don’t belong to me.”

This book is a brutal portrayal of the clash between tradition and modernity, of the difference in cultural attitudes from South Asia to America. The book follows Lucky’s struggle to strike a balance between her inner and outer worlds, between family and herself. The story shows readers the hardships that many LGBTQIA+ youth face after coming out of the closet: harassment, losing family and friends, even homelessness. Lucky and Nisha hesitate to truly be themselves because of the fear of losing the family and culture that they were raised in, the very same culture that views them as an aberration.

The story takes things a step further by adding in the pressures of Tamil culture which is highly patriarchal and places extreme value in family honor and strict marriages within the community. This is illustrated by three other women in Lucky’s family, her mother and two sisters, who each find themselves coming into conflict with themselves on the subject of marriage and culture. All four women in Lucky’s family face different hurdles, but all four carry the burden of being wives, mothers, and daughters.

“The drums will beat louder and louder toward a frenzy as he ties the thali around her neck like a noose.”

Even though the book is relatively short it is a difficult story to digest. Even so, it is timely and a necessary story that needed to be told. It is brilliant in how it shines a spotlight on an often neglected area of discourse about LGBTQIA+ issues here in the United States, the intersection between race, culture, and sexuality. I loved this book a great deal more than I expected and I’m so glad that I read it.

Title: Marriage of a Thousand Lies
Author: SJ Sindu
Publisher: Soho Press
Publication Date: June 13, 2017
Pages: 288
Format: Hardcover
Source: Library

Lucky and her husband, Krishna, are gay. They present an illusion of marital bliss to their conservative Sri Lankan–American families, while each dates on the side. It’s not ideal, but for Lucky, it seems to be working. She goes out dancing, she drinks a bit, she makes ends meet by doing digital art on commission. But when Lucky’s grandmother has a nasty fall, Lucky returns to her childhood home and unexpectedly reconnects with her former best friend and first lover, Nisha, who is preparing for her own arranged wedding with a man she’s never met.

As the connection between the two women is rekindled, Lucky tries to save Nisha from entering a marriage based on a lie. But does Nisha really want to be saved? And after a decade’s worth of lying, can Lucky break free of her own circumstances and build a new life? Is she willing to walk away from all that she values about her parents and community to live in a new truth? As Lucky—an outsider no matter what choices she makes—is pushed to the breaking point, Marriage of a Thousand Lies offers a vivid exploration of a life lived at a complex intersection of race, sexuality, and nationality. The result is a profoundly American debut novel shot through with humor and loss, a story of love, family, and the truths that define us all.


  1. Evelina

    I think I’m adding this one. It just sounds so strong :o!!!

    1. It is definitely a powerful book that I really enjoyed, if you do decide to read it than I hope you enjoy it as well!

  2. ohwow, I’ve never seen this book before. I like that it tackles several issues. also, books that involve cultures really intrigues me. like, there’s so much to learn.. thanks for putting this up my radar! 😀
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    1. No problem Czai! I’m with you on enjoying books that cover different cultures, I like learning new things and reading is one of the best ways to learn about and understand other people. This book definitely taught me a lot about Tamil culture that I never knew, it was really great. Thanks for stopping by!

  3. I love it when we put our faith in a book and it pays off! What made you decide to pick up Marriage of a Thousand Lies? I love the title– it sounds like a really challenging novel, but really important…
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    1. It was on the new releases shelf at my library and I picked it up because the colors on the cover were really eye catching. The synopsis was what made me decide to pick it up, how it mentions the separation between the main character’s public and private life. The concept of balancing outer appearances with inner desires is something that doesn’t get brought up as often, and I like character studies like that.

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